You did it again, didn’t you? You said “yes” to too many people. Forgot to write something down. Didn’t call when you said you would. Sold more product than you had available. Didn’t start that project on time. Broke another promise to yourself.
Well… Know what? IT’S OK. The world is still spinning, you haven’t ruined anything, and you can come back from even the biggest hole you may feel like you’ve dug yourself. I promise. So take a deep breath, and let me help you figure this out.
We’ve all been there. It’s a totally typical female thing to keep saying “yes” when you should probably say “hell no”. Even the most balanced of us sometimes find ourselves having bitten off more than we can chew. Here are our best tips for handling that crushing sense of overwhelm, and getting yourself out of it and back on top!
Tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)) – The first step, like anything, is acknowledging your feelings about the situation. I’m a classic glass half full girl – to a fault. BUT it is important to recognize when you’re just not feeling like things are going to be awesome. Allow yourself to accept how you feel, FEEL how you feel, and then let it go. Some people use meditation, deep breathing, praying, or another spiritual release. Tapping an excellent physical and emotional way of releasing those negative thoughts and quickly healing from them.
Do some yoga – If tapping doesn’t sound like it’s for you, yoga is a great practice to begin. Not only is it calming itself, but it helps open and loosen your body to help release those stressful feelings and the tension that builds up in your body as a result of it. Also, breathing is a huge part of yoga and even just sitting for a few minutes and concentrating on your breathing -the sound of it, the speed, etc and before long you’ll notice a sense of release in your body.
Get it out – That mile long to-do list isn’t doing you any favors swirling around in your head making you all jittery and paranoid. Sit down right now and write down every single task that comes to mind. Yes, I mean everything. Household related, kids related, business related, personal related. Get it out of your head and onto a piece of paper. If it helps, make a grid and categorize the tasks as you think of them.
Prioritize – Feel better having all of that out of your brain? Ahhhh. Ok, now you need to look back at that list and circle the two or three things that take the most priority. These are the things that simply can.not.wait.another.minute. Things like filling back orders for customers or submitting a chapter for a deadline. Something that your business hinges on. Those are what I’m talking about here.
Break it down – Put those priority things on a separate list all on their own. Now break those down into the tiniest of manageable tasks (this process is called mind mapping). If it can’t be done in one setting, it needs to be broken down again. Breaking big tasks down into these tiny tasks makes your to-do list actionable and intentional. It is also incredibly motivating to be able to cross shit off that list like POW! BANG! DONE!
TAKE ACTION – Now that you have an actionable list, DO IT. Knock those tasks out. When you finish with the few priority items that you broke down, go back to that mondo-list that you wrote out and choose your next three priority items to attack. Repeat the process.
In no time at all you’ll feel like you’re on top of the world (or, at least on top of your to-do list anyway).